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The Importance of Setting Healthy Boundaries

Updated: Apr 26

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Have you ever felt like you had to attend every event, host every gathering, or always be the go-to person for everyone? I used to be that person, believing that saying 'yes' was the only way to show up for others. However, I learned the hard way that constantly saying 'yes' to others meant saying 'no' to myself and my well-being.

There was a time when I felt angry, tired, and resentful from overcommitting and saying 'yes' too often. I realized that this pattern was unsustainable and detrimental to my mental and emotional health. I knew I had to make a change.

One of the most transformative moments in my life came when I decided to prioritize my well-being by setting boundaries. I started saying 'no' to commitments that didn't align with my values or goals. It wasn't easy at first, but with practice, it became empowering.

I learned that it's okay to not attend every event, to choose not to host gatherings, and to not always be the go-to person. Saying 'no' allowed me to create space for myself, to recharge and rejuvenate. It was a form of self-care, a way to honor my needs and protect my mental and emotional well-being.

What surprised me was how people adjusted to my new boundaries. At first, there were some who were taken aback or disappointed. However, as they saw the positive impact it had on me, they began to understand and respect my choices. I also realized that by setting boundaries, I was modeling healthy behavior and giving others permission to do the same.

Now, when I commit to something, I'm all in and happy to do it. I'm not overwhelmed because I've planned and prioritized. Saying 'no' has allowed me to say 'yes' to the things that truly matter, and for that, I am grateful.

One quote that has always resonated with me is by Anna Taylor: 

"When you say 'yes' to others, make sure you are not saying 'no' to yourself." It perfectly encapsulates the essence of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.

So, if you find yourself overcommitted and overwhelmed, remember the power of saying 'no.' It's not a rejection; it's a reclamation of your time and energy. Set boundaries that honor your needs and watch how it transforms your life.


Author Bio: Cherie Harris is a seasoned life coach with a proven track record of helping women unlock their full potential and achieve their goals. With a deep-rooted belief in the transformative power of intentional living, Cherie empowers her clients to make deliberate choices that lead to lasting success and fulfillment. Connect with her on LinkedIn for valuable insights and join a community dedicated to living with purpose and passion. To book a complimentary session with Coach Cherie click here


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